It's safe to say that a lot of girls have lost a friend either temporarily or permanently over a guy. There's just something about new relationships that causes some girls to suddenly forget all of their friends. You should never ditch your girls for a guy. Guys do it to their friends too. It's a universal incident but when it happens, it's hard to deal with.
The Golden Rule hasn't changed since your parents taught it to you when you were little ladies: One should treat others as one would like others to treat oneself. And think about it, would you really want your friends to ditch you if they got a new guy? Odds are no, so try to think about their feelings before you jeopardize a great friendship.
There is always a chance you might not last with that guy. But when/if that happens, your friends might not be around to help you get through the breakup. Friends can only have so much patience and be burned so many times before they just start to give up. If you continually make it a habit of ditching your friends for a new guy, people might give up on you. Harsh but true.
I can tell you right now that she’s going to flake on you. You’re going to set up something that you are really excited about and she’s going to blow you off to be with her new boyfriend. It’s going to happen and you are going to get hurt. The best way to handle it is tell her the truth. The truth is: your feelings are hurt, but you feel like you can’t say anything because you want her to be happy with this guy. She needs to know that your feelings are hurt. Whatever she is in love or lust, it blinds her vision for a short amount of time. Suddenly the only person she is hanging out with is him. When she does go out with friends in a group setting they end up leaving early and going home. I personally will never be a couple who turns into homebodies. I am always up for going out and cherish all the time spent out with friends, I love my boyfriend more than words could say but we both enjoy being out with all of our friends! After being together for four years, we learned how to create a good balance of together time and time doing our own thing. I would love to be with him 24 hours a day but that's not realistic and he pointed out to me that it's not healthy either :) Of all people, I would understand what love is like and how you want to be with that person every second. At the same time, there are those friends of mine who also help to keep me grounded and I love me some girl talk and gossip every lil bit!
If you are lucky enough to have friends who really care about you, you are luckier than most. So the less you see them, the more change you will see in the friendship. We're only human, and humans get hurt. So don't be upset when you see two of your friends getting closer without you. Um hi, you won't hang out with them so you want everyone to not hang out just because you choose not to? It doesn't work like that. There are some people who try to spend as much time as possible with friends. Take their lead, you might learn something.
I know everyone is busy but it takes literally two seconds to text someone and say hi or hows your day going, it takes two seconds to g-chat a friend, and it takes that same time to send an email or call. People will always make time for those they want to keep up with. I know way too many girls who have found themselves in this situation. As we get older things change, yes that is true. BUT, remember to have a mind of your own. If you want to see friends without your boyfriend around then do it. Don't ask permission. I'm positive that his life won't collapse with you being gone for one night. And if that's the case, there's a bigger issue with him and maybe you should run away fast :)
Some pointers: Buying someone materialistic things should not make them love you more, and if it does then would any guy buying you things make you love them? Last time I checked, love was a little deeper than that. Of course it's amazing to receive gifts from a guy but don't let that be the reason why you enjoy being with him. And when you truly fall in love with someone you should be the happiest you have ever been. Being angry and stressed all the time seems a little strange.
Love & Pink,
Lisa
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